Anal sex is a topic that often sparks curiosity yet remains surrounded by some taboo. The idea of exploring anal play for the first time can be daunting. Questions about what to do, whether it will hurt or be enjoyable, and if reaching orgasm is possible are common. The good news is that an anal orgasm is entirely achievable.
Orgasms are often described based on where they originate. For instance, stimulation of the external clitoris can lead to a “clitoral orgasm,” while focusing on the G-spot can bring about a “vaginal orgasm.” However, the body’s pleasure centers are interconnected. Laurie Mintz, PhD, a sex therapist, explains, “No matter where the stimulation occurs (anus, breasts, vagina, clitoris), all orgasms are physiologically the same.” They involve blood flow to genital erectile tissue and rhythmic pelvic contractions, releasing feel-good chemicals.
Anal stimulation can result in powerful orgasms. Here’s why people enjoy them and how to achieve one.
Understanding Anal Orgasms
An anal orgasm is a climax triggered by stimulating the nerve-rich areas of the anus. Sheila Loanzon, DO, notes that “orgasms are essentially the sudden release of sexual tension,” which can be achieved in various ways, including anally.
The shared nerves between the rectal and vaginal areas can lead to sexual arousal from rectal stimulation in vagina owners. The clitoris also extends into the anus, potentially leading to clitoral stimulation. For those with a penis, anal play can stimulate the prostate, enhancing pleasure.
Though you might assume the “A” in A-spot stands for anal, it actually refers to the “anterior fornix erogenous zone” or AFE zone. This area, located on the anterior vaginal wall, can be sexually arousing when stimulated, according to Kimberly Langdon, MD.
For people with a penis, anal intercourse targets the “P-spot” to achieve orgasm. Alicia Sinclair suggests targeting the A-spot by pushing towards the belly button similarly to the G-spot.
Techniques for Anal Pleasure
If you’re new to this, consider starting slowly. Lying on your back with thighs pulled against your belly shortens the vaginal canal, easing access. Use plenty of lube, and consider a curved sex toy marketed for G-spot stimulation. Avoid using a vibrator until you know the area is pleasurable for you.
Anal play might be more comfortable for some than others. Mintz advises that stimulating the A-spot increases lubrication and arousal for some, while others may find it uncomfortable.
Orgasms vary in sensation depending on their origin. While clitoral orgasms may feel localized, G-spot or prostate orgasms can feel more enveloping. An anal orgasm might feel particularly intense.
Preparation and Safety Tips
Preparation is key to avoiding discomfort during anal play. Pain indicates something is wrong, so listen to your body. Mintz advises that the anal opening is sensitive, but penetration can be painful if not prepared properly, possibly leading to injuries like anal tears.
To explore anal pleasure, start small. Sinclair suggests “anal training” with a finger or small toy before progressing. Bobby Box recommends training anal muscles to relax during penetration by gradually increasing toy size.
Incorporating things that usually bring you pleasure can enhance the experience. Whether it’s vibration or bondage, integrating familiar elements can help. Adding anal play to penetrative sex with toys or fingers can be pleasurable for both partners.
Since the anus doesn’t self-lubricate, using lube is crucial. Sinclair warns against numbing agents, as they reduce pleasure and can prevent sensing discomfort.
Experiment with positions like lying on the belly with a leg bent or doggy-style to ease access. Rimming, or oral-anal contact, can also be pleasurable due to the sensitivity of the anal area. Discuss safety measures with partners, and consider using a dental dam.
Finger Play and Safe Practices
Fingering can be more than the traditional “come hither” motion. Go slowly, use ample lube, and consider gloves for hygiene and comfort. Gloves can also extend the life of your lube.
Safety is paramount. Use flared base toys to avoid accidents, and always use lube. Clean the anal area and any toys with warm soapy water, and use protection like condoms or dams to guard against STIs. Avoid transferring bacteria from the anus to the vagina, which can cause infections.
It’s vital to feel empowered to say “no” to anything you’re uncomfortable with. Anal sex can be pleasurable and worth exploring, but always prioritize safety and consent.
Expert Insights
Laurie Mintz, PhD, is a sex therapist and human sexuality professor at the University of Florida. Sheila Loanzon, DO, is an obstetrician and gynecologist at Boston University. Kimberly Langdon, MD, is a retired obstetrician and gynecologist with Medzino. Jaiya Ma is a somatic sexologist and creator of The Erotic Blueprint™. Bobby Box is a sex educator for b-Vibe. Ericka Hart, MEd, is a sexuality educator and activist.